In the game of life, are you playing “hide” or are you playing “seek”?
Too often one can slowly retreat from trying to intentionally fashion a life they desire and rather begin to live the life that is left over when trying ends. All explanations become external, as in he made me betray him or they made me lose my confidence at work. When this happens, when we export the responsibility for our actions and hide from the responsibility for our decisions, we have given up one of the precious things about being alive: the self-responsibility- and therefore the capacity- to change and improve our lives though intentional conduct. Hiding becomes a way of living, and a way of explaining why we are not living the life we desire.
Seeking on the other hand requires that we first understand and accept that we are indeed responsible for ourselves. It can be emotionally challenging to truly embrace this responsibility. After all, our lives may be wanting for many things – love, health, or wealth – that we feel we deserve. Yet once we take responsibility for NOT having these things we are instantly empowered to actively and intentionally seek, for now we are living intentionally and can harness the personal power and energy to accept our failures as our own, learn from them, then move past them to build new pathways to success. This does NOT mean that there are no external influences that may impact our efforts; only that we can, if we choose, take responsibility for the one element that is actually under our control: ourselves.
Changing ones life begins with accepting responsibility for the way you live now. Yes, others may have had a negative influence, but some people have also had a positive influence on you. The most powerful influence has been your own. By becoming more aware of your power to make things better, or worse, for yourself and those around you, you can turn toward the positive and make the difference. You can Live Intentionally.
President Barack Obama told us this many times as he showed us its powerful truth:
“Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”
In the game of life, choose to seek rather than hide.