Archive for December, 2010
Quote for Intentional Living 12/25/10
Published December 27, 2010 Quotes for Intentional Living Leave a CommentTags: famous quotes, inspirational quotes, intentional living, quotes for intentional living, quotes to inspire
Have yourself a merry little Christmas.
Published December 23, 2010 Relationships Leave a CommentTags: christmas memories, former lover, missing someone at christmas, missing someone you love
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8hzN3Xrv47M (click the link for music)
“But the “Fates” did not allow.”
It was his first session, just weeks before Christmas, and he needed to talk about a lost love. My client came to the session with moist eyes and a soft voice as he began to talk about crying helplessly each time he heard certain Christmas songs. It seemed that he and his former wife had both loved these songs and now that they were apart he could barely listen without tears falling. As his story unfolded, I saw that his sadness was deep and enduring, and that while he had re-built his life, he probably would miss, and mourn for her, for a long time.
Contrary to what he expected, I asked him to bring his CDs of some of the songs, and we listened together while he told
me all about her and their love affair. The stories were sometimes tender, sometimes torrid, and sometimes painful. He cried and even laughed, between silences. And then, just days before Christmas, he resolved to enjoy his memories without remorse.
When I hear the music of the Christmas season, I am reminded of the many stories of love lost and
found, and of “self” lost and found”, that I’ve had the privilege to witness.
For everyone who has lived, loved, struggled, and endured to live and love once more,
have yourself a merry little Christmas.
Quote for Intentional Living – 12/18/10
Published December 18, 2010 Quotes for Intentional Living Leave a CommentTags: inspirational quotes, quotes, quotes for intentional living, quotes to inspire
Quote for Intentional Living – 12/11/10
Published December 11, 2010 Quotes for Intentional Living Leave a CommentTags: inspirational quotes, quotes, quotes for intentional living, quotes to inspire
Only trying to help?
Published December 6, 2010 Relationships Leave a CommentTags: complaining, criticizing others, giving suggestions
Are people resisting your suggestions?
Maybe you’re coming on too strongly!
Here are some tips to keep your “critiques” from becoming too critical, and help you to be easier on the ears of family and friends.
* Pause before speaking: Do whatever works to help you consider your words before you speak. Perhaps counting to 3, or taking a couple of deep breaths will help. What you need is just enough time, and presence of mind, to ask yourself if your observation is really so important that the person simply must hear it. After some consideration you may decide that forgoing your opportunity to comment was both wise and gracious.
* Walk in their shoes: Try to consider how you would receive the same critique you are about to offer. Would you graciously accept your own words, or would you feel stung by their sharpness? This is simply another version of the Golden Rule.
* Find a better venue for giving advice: If you like giving advice, and feel you are good at understanding various situations and how to best deal with them, perhaps you can find an outlet for your interest and talent. There are numerous opportunities available if you want to focus your efforts in a place where they might be appreciated. You might, for example, volunteer at a teen career center, or at recreational center for elders. The point is to find people who are asking for ideas and suggestions rather than push yours at those who don’t ask for them.![arrow in a bullseye](https://jnphd.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/arrow-in-a-bullseye.jpg?w=114&h=150)
Sometimes it’s helpful to give unsolicited ideas, but all too often it isn’t. Try these tips before you target someone for help they aren’t asking for.
Quotes for Intentional Living – 12/04/10
Published December 4, 2010 Quotes for Intentional Living Leave a CommentTags: famous quotes, inspirational quotes, quotes, quotes for intentional living, quotes to inspire