Archive for the 'Addictions' Category
C.A.G.E – a short test for alcohol problems.
Published May 28, 2012 Addictions 1 CommentTags: alcohol abuse, alcohol problem, alcoholic, alcoholics, alcoholism, booze, C.A.G.E. alcohol test, drinking, drinking problem, drunk, substance abuse, substance use
E – Have you ever had a drink first thing in the morning, and eye opener, to steady your nerves or to get rid of a hangover?
GAMBLING 1: are you going bust?
Published April 30, 2012 Addictions , Mental Health Issues Leave a CommentTags: addicted to gambling, gambling, gambling addiction, gambling problem, like to gamble, problem gambling
Are you, or someone you know, gambling away the future?
Many people gamble a little and do so with discretion and responsible limits. But some people do have a problem, and even more are on the edge of developing a problem with limiting and controlling their gambling.
Here are some warning signs:
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Needing to gamble larger and larger amounts to maintain the thrill.
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Blocks of time that are unaccounted for.
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Mood swings based on winning or losing .
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Using retirement funds or life insurance to finance gambling.
Some states, including California, sponsor a specialized Problem Gambling
program. The California version provides free counseling with specially trained therapists.
Just contact the California Office of Problem Gambling (1-800-426-2537) or in another state contact the State Dept of Mental Health for a referral.
Get help today, for yourself or for someone else.
You’ve Got Mail!
Published February 27, 2012 Addictions , Relationships Leave a CommentTags: 9th step, amends, apology letter, break up, grief and love, lost love, making amends, ninth step, Relationships, step 9, step nine
My client came to his appointment with a letter he’d received.
It was an apology, of sorts, from a former lover. Of sorts, because after the initial statement saying “Sorry”, the letter moved on to say how much she’d lost from her life since he’d last seen her and how she felt betrayed by former friends. While he was sad to hear of these things, he’d had nothing to do with those events, having not seen her for a few years prior.
What he’d lost during his relationship with her was, however, another story. She had done some terribly hurtful things to him, things that crushed his self-esteem, ended his relationship with a few friends, and diminished his trust in others. And she’d done them knowingly and intentionally, she’d later admitted. She’d laughed while she said hateful things, had told him she’d maybe do it all again the same way, and then told lies to mask her own behavior.
Now she was saying “Sorry.” But “For what?”, he wondered aloud. Maybe for having had the relationship at all, but not for what she then did to so deeply and enduringly wound him. She wished for everyone’s happiness. He shook his head, perplexed. “Yes, he hoped she would be happy.” It was his way after all.
Him? He didn’t think it likely anytime soon.![man crying in profile - photo](https://jnphd.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/08/man-crying-in-profile-photo.jpg?w=196&h=152)
I sat with him as he alternated between downcast silence and pained questions. He talked and I listened. Then near the end of the session, I talked while he listened. Finally we shared a few moments of silence.
The session ended as he remembered why he’d started therapy – to illuminate and amplify the elements of his life that he wanted more of, and to shed the brimming sadness that had become his memories. He turned again toward this goal, and made another appointment.
And as he left he gently dropped the letter into the small wastebasket.
If you are struggling with an emotional wound that burns beyond it’s time, and are not sure how to extinguish the flame, contact a qualified therapist today, and learn how to light a new and positive fire in your heart, and to rekindle your hope for your future.
Call today!
Happy Independence Day
Published July 4, 2011 Addictions Leave a CommentTags: alcohol problem, alcoholic, alcoholics, alcoholism, drinking too much
As we celebrate Independence Day for our country,
take a step toward personal celebration…
and ending your own dependence on alcohol or drugs!
Much is made of the capacity to manage one’s life independently, but so many people find themselves struggling with their dependence on alcohol or drugs and
sometimes lose confidence in their own inner strength.
At its most extreme consequence, alcohol and drug dependence can rob one of friends, family, purpose and promise, until the person
ceases to understand or accept the terrible price others may have paid for caring about them and trying to be loving and supportive even when the addiction turned cruel.
If you are questioning your own use of alcohol or drugs, and think that just maybe the people who have suggested it’s a significant problem are right, why not seek a professional opinion? Call a qualified therapist today, and begin the process of exploring and illuminating your lifestyle choices and their impact on you and on the people in your life.
Climb out of the depth of your addiction and reclaim your life. Your therapist and the people who still care about you will believe in you until you can believe in yourself.
YES YOU CAN.
Self-Harm Awareness
Published March 7, 2011 Addictions , Mental Health Issues Leave a CommentTags: cutting, self-cutting, self-mutilation awareness, self-mutiliation
March 1st is “Self Injury Awareness Day”…
Awareness is indeed important because it may help those who self-injure to hear the perspective of others who have engaged in self-injurious behavior and now have resolved their inner conflicts and urges so are able to maintain control over these urges.
It’s important for parents and other care-givers to become interested in this secret world so that you can discern when someone close to you may need support and help. It is surprising and distressing to know that most adolescents who self-injure do so while living, working and going to school in the midst of oblivious friends and adults.
Above all, knowing that someone is engaging in self-injury and remaining silent is NOT being supportive of that person. This is not a condition that should be managed on one’s own.
Staying silent only shows the person that they are not worth your trouble, and that their own secrecy is acceptable.
Please urge anyone you know who is engaging in self-mutilating behavior to seek professional help, and make a committment to the person to seek help for them if they cannot do it for themselves. It may be the most loving thing you do for them.
Gambling Problems #4 – Resources for Help
Published August 31, 2010 Addictions Leave a CommentTags: addicted to gambling, excess gambling, gambling, gambling problem, problem gambling, problem with gambling, teen gambling
Find help for yourself or a loved one at one of these sources.
Problem Gambling can affect anyone. Addictions, including addiction to gambling, can strike no matter the person’s amount of education, kind of job, or cultural background. Here are some FREE resources to help you address gambling problems.
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1-800-GAMBLER
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The California Office of Problem Gambling at www.problemgambling.ca.gov
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The California Council on Problem Gambling at www.caproblemgambling.org
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The California Lottery HelpLine at 1-888-277-3115 or www.calottery.com/playresponsibly
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Gamblers Anonymous (12 step self-help groups) at www.gamblersanonymous.org
Don’t let a gambling problem derail your future or the future of someone you care about.
Seek help, and contact a qualified therapist to assist you in discovering and resolving the underlying issues.
Gambling Problems #3 – young gamblers
Published August 24, 2010 Addictions Leave a CommentTags: addicted to gambling, excess gambling, gambling, gambling problem, problem gambling, teen gambling, youth gambling
Gambling is an attractive activity for many youth.
The State of California Office of Problem Gambling reports that between 10% and 15% of teenagers may have a gambling problem! They are growing up in a society where many forms of gambling are legal and where adults around them regularly engage in gambling. Ironically the State lottery games may be one of the more insidious messages that make gambling common place.
Forms of gambling that are available to teens include:
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Some internet gambling games
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Private bets on sporting events
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Raffles
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Card and dice games
Parents, other family members and teachers should be aware of the following indicators of possible problem gambling – or others significant problems – developing in the teens
around them.
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Unexplained absences from school
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Sudden drop in grades
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Change in personality such as increased impatience or sarcasm
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Possession of unexplained money
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Unusual interest in newspapers or in magazines about sports, fantasy sports or poker
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Inclusion of gambling language in their conversations
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Stealing from the household
Interested adults can help teens avoid gambling problems by helping them to understand the risks and to stong social and critical thinking skills. Their attitudes about gambling activities should be guided to help them understand and control risk-taking behavior. And of course adults should set a good example.
You can get more information at 1-800-GAMBLE or
www.problemgambling.ca.gov
Gambling Problems #2
Published August 10, 2010 Addictions 1 CommentTags: addicted to cards, addicted to gambling, excessive gambling, gambling, poker addiction, problem gambling, problem with gambling
Low-Risk Gambling requires awareness and discipline.
Low-risk gamblers, people who are able to gamble without it becoming an addictive problem, tend to use gambling mainly as a form of entertainment. When they win it’s an exciting surprise, and when they lose it’s seen as equivalent to the cost of other fun outings such as movies, dinner or a day at the spa.
Most importantly, what distinguishes low-risk gamblers from problem gamblers is that they understand that they will lose money if they gamble long enough.
If you want to maintain safety in your gambling behavior, follow these critical guidelines:
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Decide on a loss limit ahead of time and stick to it.
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Never borrow money to gamble.
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Set a time limit on how long you will gamble even if you’re winning.
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Take frequent breaks.
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Balance your gambling outings with other activities.
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Only gamble with money set aside for entertainment and NEVER with money needed for living expenses or targeted savings (such money saved for education, housing, medical care or retirement).
These tips and additional information on problem gambling is available from the State of California Office of Problem Gambling.
If you or someone close you think you may need help with your gambling behavior, call a qualified therapist to begin exploring ways to curb your addiction.
Call 1-800-GAMBLER for more information about problem gambling.
Gambling Problems #1.
Published August 3, 2010 Addictions Leave a CommentTags: addictiions, excess gambling, gambling, gambling problem, poker problem
Problem Gambling is not something that stays in Vegas!
The State of California recently launched an intensive training program to assist mental health professionals in gaining the knowledge and skills needed to provide effective treatment to people who gamble excessively and who experience detrimental outcomes.
Data shows that anyone can develop a problem with gambling. The National Council on Problem Gambling estimates that one of every five college students who plays poker regularly will develop an addiction! Gambling addictions have been found among people from all backgrounds and walks-of-life, including high school students as well as blue-collar and white-collar workers. No occupations are exempt from developing a gambling problem. There are grocers, electricians, educators and mental health professionals who sometimes gamble to excess.
A few warning signs of Problem Gambling include:![poker hand and chips-photo](https://jnphd.wordpress.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/06/poker-hand-and-chips-photo.jpg?w=500)
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Gambling to forget problems or worries.
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Having blocks of time that are unaccounted for.
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Lying about gambling outings.
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Being angry when asked about mysterious spending.
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Frequent out-of-town trips.
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Taking trips with open-ended returns (to account for possible winning or losing streaks).
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Making bets with money needed for basic life needs such as rent, mortgage or retirement.