How do you think about Time?

http://www.karmatube.org/videos.php?id=1989

Dr. Zimbardo  gives an entertaining and informative talk on how we conceptualize and organize time.  I think you’ll enjoy this, and learn something useful that you can apply to your understanding of yourself and how you approach everyday life.

 

Tools for Intentional Living - Dr. J. Nickens

Signs of past relationships, in the form of permanent tattoos, can be troublesome.

During the past several years I’ve noticed an increase in the number of clients who declare their regret at having gotten a tattoo of a lover’s name.   These range from a male client who had a girlfriend’s name – complete with roses and hearts  – scrawled down his entire right arm, to a young woman who had a partner’s name inked in a large sweeping arc across her lower (no, a little lower) back .

Both had regrets, because of negative stereotypes they’d had to confront.

The young man wanted to stop explaining to everyone why the name on his arm was not that of his current girlfriend.   People wondered if he had been drunk when he got tattooed, and asked endless questions aboutthe immortalized girl, who he now was trying to forget.  It was embarrassing to his …

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A distant fire… 9/04/12

Quote for Intentional Living

“We are all glowing embers of a distant fire.”

Alicia Lemke

… and if you’re not sure if this is true, watch this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pwe-pA6TaZk

DENIAL… as an affirmation!

Usually we think of “doing” rather than “not doing” when considering “intentional” behavior.  Yet there are moments when self-denial may be a good decision, and avoidance of some experiences leaves open the potential for other experiences. Here, poetically illuminated by Nadira, we see that living intentionally can also mean denying oneself. 

DENIAL  

There are questions
I will not ask
Though I know
Well, the answers.
There are waters
I will not tread
Though I know
Just how to swim.

There are songs
I cannot sing
Though the heart
Hums its desires
There are are wines
I will not sip
From the goblets
Filled to the brim.

There is an air
I cannot breathe
Though good
For my jaded self
There are places
Where I cannot linger
In the nooks of
The grassy dell

There are rainbows
I will not reach for
There are summits
I cannot climb
There are textures
I will not touch
And scents
I dare not smell.

There are streams
I will not surf through
And pebbles
I cannot pick
There are roads
I will not ride on
Though I’m sure
Of the winding way.

There are days
Robbed of rest
And nights
Devoid of dreams
But there’s a life
I will not lust for
It’s a heaven
Where I cannot stay.

                                                     posted on www.Nadirafromkannur.com 

Learn to be comfortable living within your emotional means. 

Contact a qualified therapist and say “yes” to exploring the inner satisfaction of living intentionally.

Quotes for Intentional Living – 1/06/12

Quote for Intentional Living

“Don’t be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality.

If you can dream it, you can make it so.”

                           Belva Davis

It’s about time!

Imagine that you had won the following prize in a
contest:
Each morning your bank would deposit $86,400.00 in your private account for your use.

However, this prize has rules, just as any game has rules.

   The first set of rules would be:

1) Everything that you didn’t spend during each day would be taken away from you.
2) You may not transfer money into some other account.   You may only spend it.          3) Each morning upon awakening, the bank opens your account with another $86,400.00 for that day.

      The second set of  rules – there’s only one!:

     The bank can end the game without warning; at any time it can say “It’s over, the game is over!” and you will not be invited to play again.  Your account is permanently closed!
What would you do?

You would buy anything and everything you wanted, right?  Not only for yourself, but also for people you love, right?  And you would do as many “good” things as you could for everyone everywhere.  You would try to spend as much of it as you possibly could doing good things for the planet, its people, and the creatures we share it with.

     ACTUALLY This  GAME is  REALITY!

Each of us is in possession of such a magical  bank. We just can’t seem to see it.

             
The MAGICAL BANK is  TIME!

Each morning we awaken to receive 86,400
seconds as a gift of life, and when we go to sleep at night, any remaining time is  NOT credited to us.

What we haven’t lived up that day is forever  
lost.

Yesterday is forever gone.

Each morning the account is refilled, but the bank  can dissolve your account at any
time….WITHOUT  WARNING.

SO, what will YOU do with your 86,400  seconds?

Those seconds are worth so much more than the
same amount in dollars.

Think about that, and always think of this:

Enjoy every second of your life, because time races by so much quicker than you  think.

So take care of yourself, be Happy, Love Deeply and enjoy life!

Start spending!

Life in 5 Short Chapters.

This is a nice little story by Portia Nelson that illustrates the kind of learning and changes that therapy makes possible.  It is re-printed here from the blog of Page Brockwell, ASW, a talented young therapist who I had the pleasure of supervising during her final months of training.  You can find out more about Page Brockwell – or make an appointment to see her by going to www.pagebrockwell.com on the web.

Life in Five Short Chapters

 

CHAPTER 1  I walk down the street. There’s a deep hole in the sidewalk. And I fall in. I am lost. I am helpless. It isn’t my fault. It takes forever to find a way out.

CHAPTER 2  I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don’t see it. I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But it isn’t my fault. It takes a long time to get out.

CHAPTER 3  I walk down the same street and there is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it there, and still I fall in. It’s a habit. But my eyes are open and I know where I am. It is my fault and I get out immediately.

CHAPTER 4  I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

CHAPTER 5  I walk down a different street.

Holes in your cosmos? As you walk, and write your own life story, remember that there is help available if you find yourself falling in to too many of those holes, and lingering there for much too long. 

Contact a therapist today.

 

 

 

Quotes for Intentional Living – 5/28/11

Quote for Intentional Living

“Keep some room in your heart for the unimaginable.”

Mary Oliver

Quotes for Intentional Living – 4/16/11

Quote for Intentional Living

 “Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness.

It took me years to understand that this, too, was a gift.”

Mary Oliver

Change: and all the word implies.

  Change can be elusive and yet be right in front of us.

Check out this 2 minute story for a poignant lesson on why words can make a difference , and can change your world.

http://youtu.be/Hzgzim5m7oU

Next, begin to listen to yourself, and to others, more closely, to development an appreciation of the power of words. 

Then do your best to use you words intentionally, and for helping to create a more kind and just world.

Yes, you can.